How do you stay true to yourself? Right now, with the political and social climate that we live in, it's tough to dissect feelings and emotions to know what is true and what is a reflection of others. If you spend any time on social media these days, no doubt the amount of one-sided posts you read make your brain go crazy. Our world is full of unrest and uncertainty, but it is also full of love. The thing that we are missing the most is balance. You have to approach social and political issues knowing where you stand on them and what your gut is telling you. Be informed, do your research, but don't follow one particular person or voice just because they are the loudest or most well-known for their opinions. Also, don't pick someone just because they are completely in alignment with your thoughts and opinions. Wait...what? You might be questioning that last statement. Think about it. If you only listen to people who have the exact same opinions that you do, how do you expand or open your mind to other perspectives? That old saying that there are certain things to avoid in conversations with friends-politics, religion and finances...wrong. If you have friends that are truly good friends you should be able to talk about these things to help expand your mind. If we only surround ourselves with 'like-minded' people we really limit our sphere of thought expansion and acceptance.
It's so easy to be persuaded to take one side in a situation when that's all that is in front of you. If you don't ever consider the other side, or perspective, you can't make an informed decision or opinion for yourself. This takes us back to 'staying true to you.' How do you know when you are being true to you? What does it feel like? Can your opinion change? The answers to those questions are pretty simple. You will know that you are being true to your own beliefs and feelings when it feels good deep in your gut, in your heart and in your mind. You will feel settled. Yes, your opinion can change-it should. The more that you know, the more you investigate, the more research you do, the more you learn-the more often you will find that your opinion changes. A belief and an opinion are really not that different. Some say that a belief is based on personal faith and an opinion is based on feelings and assumptions. When you add in knowledge and understanding to feelings and assumptions, that seems a better definition of 'opinion.'
It is a good practice to try to not be defensive over your opinions and feelings. When we become defensive over something we think we completely understand, we lose the possibility of learning more and having a more comprehensive understanding. Simply put, keep an open mind, don't become defensive over your own opinions and be respectful and open to others opinions. Yes, these things may seem like simple human behaviors, but when we're faced with difficult conversations or experiences-we tend to forget them all together.
If I were to think of all of the things I wanted to write about this month, this wasn't actually at the top of my list. However, we are already embroiled in the Holiday season and this is often when difficult conversations can arise with family, friends or acquaintances. From my own experiences this year, there have been plenty of conversations I have had myself that I find these reminders to be helpful. This year, I started back at work full-time, sent one kid off to college, had the other kid enter high school and I myself have started back to college to finish my degree. There has been so much change this year and many experiences that have forced me to reconsider my opinions in many different areas. Like I mentioned earlier, we often base our opinions off of what is right in front of us-with a bit of tunnel vision. As we have new experiences and shift our worldview, we can open our mind and understanding exponentially.
The full-time work that I do brings out the 'type-A' in my personality, and not always the beneficial parts of that. It has been a great experience for me to re-examine some aspects of my own short-sightedness. I'll write more on my experiences this year in another post. When I am able to focus on my part-time work (reiki, life-guidance, yoga, etc.) I am able to soften and round out the corners of the type-A. Under the layers of it all, I hope that the work(s) I do help spread love and understanding.
If there's one thing I can leave you with tonight-it's to remember to keep love at the forefront, all of the time. Lead with love. Lead with understanding, empathy and openness. Remember these things as we head out to Holiday parties and gatherings. Help spread love, not opinions and judgement.
Happy Holidays to you all!
With love and light~
What happens when we feel all of the feels?
"Let your feelings out! Don't hold them in!" How often do you see this or hear this being said or chanted? It's something that we encourage in this field, frequently. Something that isn't talked about, or explained, or even warned about is where all of that emotion and feeling goes. When we talk about not holding your feelings in, sharing how you feel or expressing your emotions, it's all about releasing the emotions and the energy that the emotions create inside of you. It's healthy to release and let go.
When does it become unhealthy to release your emotions? Well, this is a tough one. You should always release your emotions, but you have to be careful who you're releasing them on and how you are doing it. We all have the right to feel and to emote, what we shouldn't be doing is projecting on to others. What you can't control is how you feel about something, what you can control is trying to make someone else feel the same way you feel. Often we think that by expressing ourselves (or unleashing) to someone else we are using a healthy form of releasing our emotions. This is not always true. Yes, sharing our feelings when they involve someone else is sometimes necessary for the strength of a relationship, but unleashing onto someone how you are feeling simply to let it out-is not.
There are ways of releasing emotions that are healthy and cannot harm others. Journaling, meditating, yelling (in private), punching (a pillow), dancing, exercising, Reiki, bodywork and even having an Emotion Release session are all safe ways to release your emotions. It is very easy to project those emotions onto others when we 'let it out' in front of them. Be very cautious. Just because you are feeling a certain way, or having strong emotions about something doesn't mean that whoever else is involved needs to understand or take on those emotions as well.
Our emotions don't always need validation or understanding. Simply stating how we are feeling to someone else is a way of releasing the energy that has formed from an emotional event. It's when we expect that another person should share the same feelings or emotions-this is when we can project our 'stuff' on to them and can actually cause harm.
Let me explain this in terms of an example. Have you ever been around someone who is really angry or frustrated about a situation? Maybe that person decides to unleash their frustrations on you and share with you how they are feeling about that situation in vivid detail. You start out not understanding why they are so upset over the situation. As the conversation goes on, you do begin to feel frustrated for them. You feel anger and frustration begin to swirl around inside of you where there was none before. The conversation ends and you walk away. As you go on with your day, your mood has decidedly gone from relaxed and happy to obviously cranky and short-tempered, and you're wondering-'why?' You wouldn't automatically think that you absorbed the emotional energy of the person you had the conversation with, but in fact, that is exactly what happened. Often we want someone else to understand how we are feeling about something, so we will explain in such detail until they begin to truly 'get' why we are feeling the way we do. This is when projecting emotions and emotional energy can happen and suddenly-the other person is feeling emotions that they previously had no part of.
This is all not to say that we shouldn't share how we are feeling or even let someone know when they have hurt us-we just have to be very careful about how that sharing happens. Everyone has feelings and emotions, but those feelings and emotions belong to each individual person and should stay in the energy field of that person and not get forced on other people.
The exceptions to this are, of course, feelings and emotions that are helpful to the collective. It never hurts to share love, happiness, joy and peace with others! There are many emotions we can share that are beneficial to others, we just have to be very careful about the emotions that we can share that cause harm. It's very rarely intentional. What we can be intentional about is spreading emotions that are helpful and healing.
Love and Light~
are you ready to fly?
2017 is literally right around the corner! Are you ready to FLY in the New Year?
We are ending 2016 with a lot of heaviness around and that all needs to be released before going into a new year. What are your intentions for next year? Have you thought about it yet? Do you have a plan to make those intentions become your reality? If your answer is, "No," that's okay! You don't have to have a set plan, written out and set in stone. Sometimes, life has different plans for us than what we expect or plan for. The most important thing is getting rid of the baggage from the past! Releasing it and bringing your energy up to a level that attracts abundance and prosperity. This can be in the area of health, work, family, money, fitness, a new hobby, a new relationship, etc. It can be as simple as wanting to create abundance in the area of time for yourself.
Sometimes there are energetic blocks in our system that are holding us back from moving forward in abundance and prosperity. That's why it's so important to use this time of the year to clear out the gunk! Release stuck emotions, let go of resentment, anger, worry, fear and feel your wings start to expand! Start the New Year with a fresh perspective, a little more focus on where you are going and a lighter, clearer outlook on what you can accomplish for yourself. When you release 'stuck' emotions and the negative energy they create in your body, you are literally letting go of the past and giving your body/mind/spirit the chance to heal and move forward. Things that may have been difficult for you before-become easier. It helps heal relationships and create stronger bonds. There are so many reasons to release all that is weighing you down! It's called a 'release' for a reason! Let go of your burdens. Lighten your load so that you can fly!
What does it take to FLY? It's pretty simple. You have to have Faith, you have to be able to Love and you have to dedicate time just for You.
Faith + Love + You= FLY!
Sounds pretty simple, right? It is pretty simple when you are listening to your true inner voice and believing in yourself. Sometimes it takes a little (or a lot of) work to get there and that's okay! It's about learning to look in the mirror every day and see beneath the mask that you wear on a daily basis to the beautiful soul underneath and then letting that soul shine.
I'm working on a 5-day program that will help you to hone in on what you want to focus on for the coming year. It's going to include fun and challenging worksheets to fill out, daily meditations to do so that you are making time to go inward to start to connect to your inner self, customized mantras for you, and other good stuff! If you are interested in this, please sign-up HERE to receive a notice when it is ready to launch.
For a limited time, I'm offering a discount on an Emotion Release session to help you get started on releasing the heavy junk that is holding you back. If you sign up for the Monthly Newsletter before December 23, 2016-you will receive an e-mail with a special link to purchase a session at the discounted rate!
Love and Light~
What's on my nightstand...
Books! I struggled with what to write about for my first blog entry on here. I thought about everything that I want to share with my clients, and there are just too many things. So, I am starting with something that I am absolutely passionate about-reading. I usually have no less than 3-4 books going at one time. Books help us escape, experience situations that we may never get to experience in real life, help us in our time of need, make us laugh, make us cry (sometimes even ugly cry), make us forget, make us remember, and so on and so on.
I really wanted to share the books that I am currently reading right now so you can get a better idea of who I am. I read ALL kinds of books. There is not just one category that I like better than another. Here is a little more info on the books pictured above:
1. The Complete Yoga Book by James Hewitt- Very thorough discussion of Yoga. He has a section each for breathing, postures and meditation. There are illustrations for most of the postures and each is explained in detail. It took me a little while to get through this book, but I keep going back to it as a reference! It is highlighted and marked up to the nines on the inside.
2. Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell- the subtitle "A Guide to Unleashing the Wise, Wild Woman Within" is a great description. This is a beautiful book that calls on women to get back to the sanctuary of Sisterhood and remember that we are all here to support one another. From the back cover-"It is a manual for healing the insecurities, the fears and the limiting inherited patterns that stop women from trusting their innate power and wisdom, and being the person they came here to be."
3. The Bible- I love exploring the Bible. One of my favorite things to do is just open it up and see where I land. There is always something to learn. It's fascinating and inspiring.
4. Wheels of Life by Anodea Judith, Ph. D.- If you are at all interested in learning about chakras, what they mean and why they are important-this is the book to learn from. I started out with this on audiobook and decided that I had to have the hard copy. It is something that I will constantly refer back to. Again, not a light, easy read, but definitely worth your time.
5. Energy Medicine by Donna Eden- This book is awesome! A detailed explanation of how energy moves in our bodies, how meridians and chakras work, exercises to do to work with the energy, and so much more. This is another one that I had on audio first and had to own a hard copy of. I felt like I understood the energetic properties of our bodies until I read this book. Good stuff!
6. Click Magazine~For the Modern Photograp(her)- Okay, this one isn't really a book, but it's always close by and I love when it comes every-other-month, so I had to include it. It is full of gorgeous photos and well-written articles that are geared toward photographers that are women. Although, I do think that any photographer would appreciate it, female or male. I always find really cool new products in there too!
So, that's my nightstand round-up! What books are you reading right now? Have you read any of the ones above and if you have, what did you think?
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I am a wife, mom, photographer, avid reader, Yoga enthusiast, nature lover, traveler, adventurer, and child of God, who loves to learn about anything and everything and is just trying to help others see the beautiful beings that they are! Welcome to the blog for my website. Here you will find articles about many, various items of interest. I am a Reiki Practitioner, Life Coach, Yoga Instructor, Energy Healer, Astrologer, custom Mala Creator and your go-to for the support that you have been looking for. Thank you for stopping in!
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