How do you stay true to yourself? Right now, with the political and social climate that we live in, it's tough to dissect feelings and emotions to know what is true and what is a reflection of others. If you spend any time on social media these days, no doubt the amount of one-sided posts you read make your brain go crazy. Our world is full of unrest and uncertainty, but it is also full of love. The thing that we are missing the most is balance. You have to approach social and political issues knowing where you stand on them and what your gut is telling you. Be informed, do your research, but don't follow one particular person or voice just because they are the loudest or most well-known for their opinions. Also, don't pick someone just because they are completely in alignment with your thoughts and opinions. Wait...what? You might be questioning that last statement. Think about it. If you only listen to people who have the exact same opinions that you do, how do you expand or open your mind to other perspectives? That old saying that there are certain things to avoid in conversations with friends-politics, religion and finances...wrong. If you have friends that are truly good friends you should be able to talk about these things to help expand your mind. If we only surround ourselves with 'like-minded' people we really limit our sphere of thought expansion and acceptance.
It's so easy to be persuaded to take one side in a situation when that's all that is in front of you. If you don't ever consider the other side, or perspective, you can't make an informed decision or opinion for yourself. This takes us back to 'staying true to you.' How do you know when you are being true to you? What does it feel like? Can your opinion change? The answers to those questions are pretty simple. You will know that you are being true to your own beliefs and feelings when it feels good deep in your gut, in your heart and in your mind. You will feel settled. Yes, your opinion can change-it should. The more that you know, the more you investigate, the more research you do, the more you learn-the more often you will find that your opinion changes. A belief and an opinion are really not that different. Some say that a belief is based on personal faith and an opinion is based on feelings and assumptions. When you add in knowledge and understanding to feelings and assumptions, that seems a better definition of 'opinion.'
It is a good practice to try to not be defensive over your opinions and feelings. When we become defensive over something we think we completely understand, we lose the possibility of learning more and having a more comprehensive understanding. Simply put, keep an open mind, don't become defensive over your own opinions and be respectful and open to others opinions. Yes, these things may seem like simple human behaviors, but when we're faced with difficult conversations or experiences-we tend to forget them all together.
If I were to think of all of the things I wanted to write about this month, this wasn't actually at the top of my list. However, we are already embroiled in the Holiday season and this is often when difficult conversations can arise with family, friends or acquaintances. From my own experiences this year, there have been plenty of conversations I have had myself that I find these reminders to be helpful. This year, I started back at work full-time, sent one kid off to college, had the other kid enter high school and I myself have started back to college to finish my degree. There has been so much change this year and many experiences that have forced me to reconsider my opinions in many different areas. Like I mentioned earlier, we often base our opinions off of what is right in front of us-with a bit of tunnel vision. As we have new experiences and shift our worldview, we can open our mind and understanding exponentially.
The full-time work that I do brings out the 'type-A' in my personality, and not always the beneficial parts of that. It has been a great experience for me to re-examine some aspects of my own short-sightedness. I'll write more on my experiences this year in another post. When I am able to focus on my part-time work (reiki, life-guidance, yoga, etc.) I am able to soften and round out the corners of the type-A. Under the layers of it all, I hope that the work(s) I do help spread love and understanding.
If there's one thing I can leave you with tonight-it's to remember to keep love at the forefront, all of the time. Lead with love. Lead with understanding, empathy and openness. Remember these things as we head out to Holiday parties and gatherings. Help spread love, not opinions and judgement.
Happy Holidays to you all!
With love and light~
This Summer is full of interesting planetary and cosmic body movements. You may be feeling the effects of it and not even be aware of why you are feeling the way you do!
We have 6 total retrograde planets happening this Summer! Some people refer to this as a 'retrograde storm.' This has only happened twice over the last century-once in the 1940's and again in the 1980's. Retrograde storms happen when there are a group of planets that go retrograde all around the same time. What does 'retrograde' mean? A 'retrograde' planet is actually an optical illusion. A planet will appear to be moving backward during retrograde. Astrologist Kathy Biehl describes it best, in my opinion. Here is what she says about explaining a retrograde planet:
"A retrograde is an optical illusion. It’s the same optical illusion that occurs when cars are whizzing around a racetrack in different lanes. When a car on an inside lane passes a slower one in an outer lane, the cars will appear to “retrograde” to one another. Same with planets. When a faster-moving planet on an inside lane (aka orbit), catches up to and passes a slower-moving planet on an outside lane, observers on both planets would see the other planet as retrograde."
No doubt, you've heard people talk about Mercury retrograde and making a big deal about it. Every planet goes retrograde at some point-except the Moon, which is not actually a planet, but is referred to one in Astrology for the sake of discussion. During a retrograde, the Earth will be the closest to that planet that it can get. The Earth being on the 'inside lane' of the orbits, with the outer planets on the outside lane-they are the closest in orbit as they will get during their retrograde time. One to three retrogrades at a time is pretty normal, this Summer we have SIX planets going retrograde around the same time.
So, if a retrograde Planet appears to be moving backward, why does that affect us? Energetically, it means we may be backtracking as well. Often, we see situations arise, or people appear from our past-or to help us heal situations. This also means that we are trying to 'pull out' shadow stuff that needs work. All of those pieces and parts of yourself that you don't really love-they may make an appearance this Summer to help you accept and embody them. It's time to reevaluate and revisit some things that you may have been stuffing down or trying to avoid. Understand that it all happens to help you move forward and to help you heal wounds that are still raw. It can be challenging at times, but it you shouldn't be fearful of retrogrades.
There's a lot of information out there that has a very negative voice when it comes to the cosmos this Summer. The retrogrades started earlier this year, when Jupiter went retrograde in March, followed closely by Saturn and Pluto. In June, we added Mars to the retrogrades. This month we add Mercury and Neptune, while Jupiter comes out of it's retrograde. In August, we will have Mercury, Mars, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto in retrograde. Later in the month-Mercury and Mars will come out of their retrogrades. Adding to that, Chiron-which is a comet we examine in Astrology, also went retrograde in July. Saturn comes out of retrograde in September, and Pluto does in October-right before Venus goes into retrograde.
What does all of this mean for us? It can feel very chaotic right now. Emotions may be high-especially agitation and annoyance. Mars is the planet of initiation and drive, but also high-tempers. Give yourself time to respond to situations instead of reacting. Deep breaths, some sips of water and a little break from the action can all help you reset. Turn your high temper into productivity with exercise or finishing a task. This is a good time to get your life in order. Saturn is trying to create order and organization right now. Try not to push situations or make things happen that you feel you are hitting up against a wall on. There's usually a reason it's not supposed to move forward. With Mercury in retrograde from July 26th-August 19th, try not to solidify any agreements, contracts or create new businesses. This is a great time to complete 'old' work or to finish a project that has been hanging around. With Jupiter retrograde, it's a wonderful time to focus on personal growth and development. As I type this, Jupiter has already gone direct and out of retrograde, but that doesn't mean you aren't still feeling the effects. With the outer planets (Saturn, Jupiter, Uranus, Pluto, Neptune) the affects that they have on us may not be felt quite as strongly as the planets closer to our orbit of Earth. They typically work to create change inwardly for us during retrogrades. Venus, Mars and Mercury tend to have a more dynamic affect on us individually, and as a collective. Venus retrograde may challenge what you think you want out of life. It may also bring up old relationships, or people from those relationships into your life. It challenges us to define what we want out of life and what we value in relationships.
On top of the retrogrades happening, we are also in Eclipse season. We had a partial solar eclipse, a full lunar eclipse (this Friday, July 27th-with the full moon), and another partial solar eclipse to follow. The first partial solar eclipse happened on July 13th in the sign of Cancer. If you remember things being very emotional, confusing and irritating around that time-it fits. The full lunar eclipse coming is in Aquarius. Aquarius loves to do work for the greater good, the collective, so if you feel yourself being emotionally charged for the sake of others, it fits. The next partial solar eclipse happens on August 11th, and what you may experience around that time is the culmination of events coming to an end, or even a very new venture that you've been tossing around in your head for awhile with no clear decision on. Aquarius likes to create the energy to make concise and actionable decisions.
None of what we are experiencing this Summer/Fall is happening to us, it is happening for us. Cue the eye roll! It's a true statement. Another thing to consider is how these retrogrades, eclipses, etc are impacting you truly can't be discovered until you look at your natal chart and understand what influences are held there. Every time I look at a natal chart, or check progression or transits for a client-even if what I see might be considered challenging, I still see it as positive in one way or another. It usually signifies that shifts are needed in order to project someone out of a state of stillness, or to improve an area in their life that they just haven't put attention on, or haven't wanted to put attention on. When we learn to work with the energies of the planets, signs and astrological bodies, everything gets a little clearer and less chaotic.
If you've been feeling a little cuckoo...know that it won't last forever. It will end! But, what I would encourage you to ask yourself is, "what am I supposed to be learning right now?" Each situation that you encounter that feels very 'out-of control,' chaotic, frustrating, uncertain or hopeless, just take a moment to breathe and reset. Walk away from situations that feel unfavorably charged or tumultuous, keep your opinions to yourself in certain situations and speak your truth in other situations. Only you can determine when your voice needs to be heard or silenced. Being in tune with your inner self will help with that. We won't just be experiencing this in our individual lives, there's a lot of transitioning and transformation going on in the collective. World wide we are seeing the effects of these retrogrades. Lots of political unrest and arguing, disagreements on boundaries (borders) and human interest stories that are sparking lots of support and want for change. Remember to lead from the heart, to always try to see the other side of the story, understand that the media is only reporting small parts of a bigger story and give grace where it is needed. You can be a warrior, but do it with the intention of love.
If you are interested in learning about how the retrogrades could be impacting you personally and on a deeper level, contact me to set up a Natal chart reading. We look at the planets at your time of birth, as well as where they are now and how they are influencing you on a spiritual, emotional and physical level. Initial Astrology sessions are still on special through the end of the Summer! I wanted to keep the cost down during these challenging times to make it more accessible to my clients.
If you are interested in learning more about Astrology, I recommend two phone apps that are helpful. One is Sky View Lite, you can hold your phone up to the night sky and it will tell you what you are looking at. Another is Co-Star, this app will tell you about the transits you are currently experiencing from the information from your birth information. A website that is full of information for the beginner is www.astro.com. You can even generate your own birth chart to start understanding it better. Happy Learning!
Love and Light~
What happens when we feel all of the feels?
"Let your feelings out! Don't hold them in!" How often do you see this or hear this being said or chanted? It's something that we encourage in this field, frequently. Something that isn't talked about, or explained, or even warned about is where all of that emotion and feeling goes. When we talk about not holding your feelings in, sharing how you feel or expressing your emotions, it's all about releasing the emotions and the energy that the emotions create inside of you. It's healthy to release and let go.
When does it become unhealthy to release your emotions? Well, this is a tough one. You should always release your emotions, but you have to be careful who you're releasing them on and how you are doing it. We all have the right to feel and to emote, what we shouldn't be doing is projecting on to others. What you can't control is how you feel about something, what you can control is trying to make someone else feel the same way you feel. Often we think that by expressing ourselves (or unleashing) to someone else we are using a healthy form of releasing our emotions. This is not always true. Yes, sharing our feelings when they involve someone else is sometimes necessary for the strength of a relationship, but unleashing onto someone how you are feeling simply to let it out-is not.
There are ways of releasing emotions that are healthy and cannot harm others. Journaling, meditating, yelling (in private), punching (a pillow), dancing, exercising, Reiki, bodywork and even having an Emotion Release session are all safe ways to release your emotions. It is very easy to project those emotions onto others when we 'let it out' in front of them. Be very cautious. Just because you are feeling a certain way, or having strong emotions about something doesn't mean that whoever else is involved needs to understand or take on those emotions as well.
Our emotions don't always need validation or understanding. Simply stating how we are feeling to someone else is a way of releasing the energy that has formed from an emotional event. It's when we expect that another person should share the same feelings or emotions-this is when we can project our 'stuff' on to them and can actually cause harm.
Let me explain this in terms of an example. Have you ever been around someone who is really angry or frustrated about a situation? Maybe that person decides to unleash their frustrations on you and share with you how they are feeling about that situation in vivid detail. You start out not understanding why they are so upset over the situation. As the conversation goes on, you do begin to feel frustrated for them. You feel anger and frustration begin to swirl around inside of you where there was none before. The conversation ends and you walk away. As you go on with your day, your mood has decidedly gone from relaxed and happy to obviously cranky and short-tempered, and you're wondering-'why?' You wouldn't automatically think that you absorbed the emotional energy of the person you had the conversation with, but in fact, that is exactly what happened. Often we want someone else to understand how we are feeling about something, so we will explain in such detail until they begin to truly 'get' why we are feeling the way we do. This is when projecting emotions and emotional energy can happen and suddenly-the other person is feeling emotions that they previously had no part of.
This is all not to say that we shouldn't share how we are feeling or even let someone know when they have hurt us-we just have to be very careful about how that sharing happens. Everyone has feelings and emotions, but those feelings and emotions belong to each individual person and should stay in the energy field of that person and not get forced on other people.
The exceptions to this are, of course, feelings and emotions that are helpful to the collective. It never hurts to share love, happiness, joy and peace with others! There are many emotions we can share that are beneficial to others, we just have to be very careful about the emotions that we can share that cause harm. It's very rarely intentional. What we can be intentional about is spreading emotions that are helpful and healing.
Love and Light~
I am a wife, mom, photographer, avid reader, Yoga enthusiast, nature lover, traveler, adventurer, and child of God, who loves to learn about anything and everything and is just trying to help others see the beautiful beings that they are! Welcome to the blog for my website. Here you will find articles about many, various items of interest. I am a Reiki Practitioner, Life Coach, Yoga Instructor, Energy Healer, Astrologer, custom Mala Creator and your go-to for the support that you have been looking for. Thank you for stopping in!
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